The mind deals with negative or potentially dangerous situations in a variety of different ways and these coping mechanisms are short term techniques for dealing with phobias, nervousness, stress and anxiety etc.
During the initial session, Simon shows his Clients why they use these techniques to ‘protect’ themselves.
He explains how these mechanisms can appear to allow them to fulfill their everyday commitments in the short/medium term, but how these protective measures can sometimes become habits and negative practiced behaviours.
The ‘typical’ negative coping mechanisms are:
Avoidance – head in the sand
Pretending – did it really happen
Denial – it didn’t really happen
Attack – the best form of defence is attack
Cognitive – changing how we think
Behavioural – changing how we do
Defence – be the ‘injured party’
Lying – create a new ‘reality’
Self harming – internalising the emotion
Fantasy – creating an unreal world
Dissociation – distancing
Idealisation – creating the perfect role model
Intellectualisation – less emotion more facts
Trivialisation – wasn’t really important anyway
Samotisation – psychology becomes phsyiology
Rituals and Superstitions
Seeking help then rejecting it
Pessimism – negative thoughts
These old negative ‘coping’ mechanisms can be re-calibrated in conjunction with the natural positives and negatives.
Simon introduces new positive mechanisms so that optimism and positive thoughts and actions become the preferred way of thinking and living.